Blue Star Chronicles

December 25th, 2005
December 24th, 2005

Happy Birthday

My dearly beloved was born on Christmas Day. I strongly suspect that has something to do with his general attitude about the Christmas season. Bah Humbug pretty much sums it up.

Last year we spent Christmas/his birthday with his children in Boston. We spent a wonderful week with his son, daughter, daughter-in-law and grandchildren. Aren’t they all beautiful?

It was a very nice Christmas/birthday!

As long as I’ve known him, I’ve suspected that he secretly likes Christmas. He’s just too manly to admit it.

We celebrate Christmas in the morning and his birthday in the afternoon. He’s bound to feel cheated.

His mother told me that when he was a child they tried to celebrate his birthday in June so he’d have a seperate celebration. But when people asked how old he was, 5 1/2 just didn’t cut it. So it went back to Christmas Day.

Maybe he was disappointed when he got old enough to realize all the decorations and celebrations weren’t just for him?

So this post is for you, honey. It’s not wrapped in Christmas paper and not a single jingle bell on it.

Just wishing you a Happy Birthday. You da man!

Love you,
Me



December 24th, 2005

Merry Christmas to My Children

I forced my children to pose in these homemade fleese scarves we made last year. You can see how thrilled they look :). We made them from leftover material from the fleese blankets we made.They are all in other places this year. So - I’m sending a Merry Christmas via blog to my sweet children.

I wish for you long, happy and prosperous lives.

I love you!



December 24th, 2005

Remembering Christmas Past

Christmas Day was spent at my grandmother’s house when I was a child. Really through my young adulthood, until her death in 1994. She insisted on it.

I didn’t understand until I was older that she pretty much made everyone come to her house on Christmas. To me, it was just what we always did. All of her sons and their families were dutifully at her house on Christmas. I’m not sure anyone questioned her authority.

She decorated – really decorated. The photo in this post is perfect of her. It’s how I remember her, especially at Christmas, with all the frills, lights, candles and garland she could fit into her house.

It didn’t seem to matter that she was living in a mill town in Georgia and her husband was a barber. She had my grandfather, and after his death, my uncle take her into Atlanta to Rich’s to do her shopping. She was a lady and she would have the nicer things. Period.

She wasn’t a bad person. She had a difficult childhood and a strong will and with all sons, she was not going to be take a back seat to anyone. I’m not sure she wasn’t right, she set up a family tradition that contributed considerably to the closeness of the family and some very fond memories.

She worked us all hard. There were no excuses for not contributing. That was expected too. She raised 5 hard-working, very fine, honorable and just basically good sons. So she obviously did some thing right.

That was Christmas. We got up in the morning. Daddy always made us wait in the hall while he got his movie camera out (the kind with the huge hot lamps), when he had everything set up, we could come into the living room and see what Santa had laid out for us during the night.

Then we all got ready and went to my grandmothers for the evening and opened presents again. One or the other of my uncles always had a prank gift for someone. My uncles were all hilarious. They played as hard as they worked.

After dinner the men would go and sit on the porch and smoke and tell tall tales. The women went to the kitchen and cleaned and prepared for opening gifts. When I was very young I could go out on the porch with my granddaddy and uncles. I always liked going out there with them. They talked about more interesting things than the women did and they thought I was cute. They would sit me on their laps and let me light their cigarettes with those old-fashioned propane lighters and laugh at everything I said and did. I loved them very much.

As I grew older, I had to help in the kitchen, but escaped as quickly as I could to go back out to the porch with the men.

I remember the last real Christmas there. The last one before they all started leaving. It was crowded in her house, as usual. I remember we were at her table and she was opening presents. My daddy’s youngest brother had gone into the kitchen to get more coffee and was coming back into the dinning room, I bumped into him as he came through the door. He made some kind of joke out of it, as he always did, I wish I remembered what he said.

What I do remember is that I looked straight into his eyes and I remember behind his laughter I saw a sadness. He was beautiful, he had strikingly beautiful eyes, and he was so very young.

It was the last time I ever saw him.

A week later he died of a massive heart attack at 47 years of age. He was the first. My father died just before Christmas the next year. Within a couple of years, 3 of the 5 brothers were dead. All died suddenly of massive heart attacks, just like their father did.

Nothing was ever the same after that.

My grandmother still insisted on the Christmas gatherings at her house. But it was different now. The laughter was more forced, if it was there at all. Unspoken sadness inevitably hung over the gatherings. The two surviving sons talked together and became closer than ever.

My grandmother outlived all but one of her sons. When her 4th son died, she seemed to decide it was time to go herself. Eventhough she had been remarkably healthy during her life, she died within just a few months. We haven’t had Christmas together with that side of the family since then. I’ve rarely seen them at all since then.

I find true joy in my family and friends who are in my life now. But during the Christmas season I always find myself thinking back on those years with a certain amount of melancholy.

I am always sad for the times that have been tucked away into the past. Times that I had no idea would ever end. I miss the people who have left.

I miss them, everyone.



December 23rd, 2005

Open Trackback Weekend

I found this Open Track Back Party on Cao’s Blog .

Following the links in her Open Track Back Blogroll, I found some very interesting posts and new blogs of interest.

I linked this post back to the links below to see if I can figure out how this works. And because I’m proud of my son.

Caos Blog
Stop The ACLU
The Right Nation

More in a little bit - we are watching the Andy Williams Christmas Show. I think I’ve seen it at least a dozen times. I think I saw it when it was new.

I’m finding myself wondering who would be caught dead in those outfits nowadays :)



December 23rd, 2005

Christmas at Arlington

 

 

Greater Love Hath No Man …. Than To Lay Down His Life …

 

 

The picture speaks for itself. 

 

I found this at Freedom Folks
Trackback url: Freedom Folks

 

 



December 22nd, 2005

Cartoon of the Day



December 22nd, 2005

Loose Lips Sink Ships

And if you tell them when we are pulling troops out.

And if you send the message the American public is not behind our troops.



December 21st, 2005

Behold, the Death of Unions

Ladies and Gentlemen, pull up a chair, pop some popcorn and grab a drink. Sit back and watch.

We are all eye witnesses to the death of unions in America, at least for the time being.

This is one of those, What Are They Thinking kind of moments in life. You know … when you can’t for the life of you figure out what the thought process is of someone who is doing something that is obviously self-destructive.

I’m sure the union bosses in New York think this is perfect timing to put the squeeze on New York City. I’m sure they are thinking they are going to strong-arm New York City into caving into their demands.

I’m sure the powers that be in New York City are thrilled to death to have this opportunity to get rid of the overpaid, over-benefited workers. They can and will be replaced with non-union workers at much less expense to the tax-payers of the city.

Unions served a purpose at one time, but they have been dying out for a while now. Their power slowly eroding with ever increasing and unreasonable demands of the work place.

Now, right before our virtual eyes, the last strong hold is going the way of other unions. They are strong arming for ‘rights’ that most of us can only dream of having.

Their ‘rights’ are costing the small business man in New York City his Christmas season earnings. Their ‘rights’ are making the average man in New York City have to increase his work day by hours to walk to work - in the cold.

They make $100,000 per year - bus drivers! They are striking for better pension guarantees. They say they ’should’ be able to retire at age 55, not 62. They say they ’should’ get a pension plan that requires the city to put $23,000 into their pension per year. They say they have the ‘right’ and ‘deserve’ this.

They say they are doing this to save all unions.

If this strike successes, unions will regain some of their power.

If New York City breaks the union, it’s over for unions.

It is a death struggle.

My opinion is that the union will be broken. There is no sympathy for the exorbitant demands of the union bosses.

Most Americans would love to make $100,000 a year in a job they don’t have to take home with them (I would!). Most Americans would love to be able to retire at age 55 (I would!).

It’s hard to feel sympathy for an inarticulate guy on TV talking about his ‘right’ to retire at age 55. This guy says, ‘I shouldn’t have to work till I’m too old to enjoy retirement.’ He said this seriously.

I figure one day someone will come into my office and I’ll be slumped over my laptop. They’ll move me out of the way and start looking for someone else to run the place.

The sympathy I feel for these guys is that they are inarticulate and seemingly not very well informed. They have followed their union bosses to their demise. They are replaceable, as we all are.

Unions will come back in 20 or so years, when the pendulum swings back in the other direction.

Stay tuned. It’s gonna get ugly up in here.



December 21st, 2005

Quote of the Day 2

The gallery in which the reporters sit has become a fourth estate of the realm.

Thomas Babington, Lord Macaulay
1800 - 1859



December 21st, 2005

Being the Boss Without a Voice ….

I am soooo sick ….

I don’t expect anyone to particularly care about reading this. But I can’t complain to anyone else, this is my blog, so I figure I can complain here.

I am sick. I woke up this morning sicker than I was yesterday. I tried to speak to my husband and an awful croaking sound came out of my throat. Yuck.

So I whispered. ‘What?’, he asked. ‘I can’t talk’, I croaked out the obvious in a barely audiable whisper. ‘You sound terrible’, he said, again stating the obvious, ‘poor baby, you’re sick aren’t you’. I glared at him. He left for work.

Later, he wondered out loud if he could keep me this way. He thought that was funny. I croaked out, ‘You’d miss me if I was gone.’ ‘What?’, he asked. I tried again, ‘What?’. Again I tried. ‘I can’t understand you, just rest your voice.’

What voice? I gave him my best version of the dirtiest look I could muster. He just laughed.

I called work to have my assistant call to reschedule some appointments. It’s obviously pointless for me to meet with people today and I can’t be sure I’ll be okay tomorrow. Plus, I’m probably contagious.

Someone answered the phone. I said, ‘This is …., may I speak to … please?’. ‘What?’, came the reply. I repeated. She put me on hold. For a loooonnnnggg time. I hung up, cleared my throat, determined to put on my best ‘boss’ commanding voice and called again. Someone else answered and we went through the same rigamarole. I was put on hold again. For a long time again. I hung up again.

I was steaming.

I called one last time. This time my assistant answered. I was so relieved. I started telling her what I needed her to do. ‘What?’ she asked. I started again. ‘I’m sorry, but I’m having difficulty understanding you,’ she said, ‘would you please repeat’. !!!!!!!!!! AGGGGHHHHHH.

I croaked out, ‘Stay at your desk, I’ll email you’. I mustered up all my energy to get the words out and sound authoritative, but I’m sure I sounded more like a bad connection at the drive-thru of a fast food place. ‘I’m sorry, will you repeat?’, she asked.

By this time I not only felt like death warmed over, I was irritated. So I deluged them all with emails. Phone etiquette being top on my list at that particular moment.

I was bombared with emails in return. This appointment is rescheduled, they took care of this that and the other. They didn’t realize it was me (I just wish I could express how much that irritated me).

What did bosses do before email?



December 21st, 2005

Picture of the Day

 

My Mother and two oldest sisters.

My father took this photo with him during World War II.