Now I’ll give you this, if he’s just sitting around swilling beer, beating the kids and generally being a lazy slob, he is scum of the Earth. But if he’s taking care of the kids, teaching them, spending time with them and also being productive then he should get some credit. But to most in this world he is an unemployed loser…

It’s a fact and double standard that will never go away.

If you are staying at home, whether you are a man or woman, it shouldn’t matter. I’m just a little fed up with the whole “I’m a woman so I don’t have to care about my man” thing that’s been going around. You’re supposed to be partners, a team. Some women out there seem to think that staying at home is somehow not contributing to a partnership or society in general and that anyone who stays home should be shunned.

It’s utterly ridiculous. All you have to do is look back to World War II to see how much these same women did for the country.

It’s the same for stay at home men, but what’s the old saying… “behind every good man there’s a good woman”… and I believe that term was coined long before this whole “liberated” BS that’s been going around. The same could be said for the stay at home men.

In particular I remember going to a school function for my daughter when I was a stay at home dad (and working mind you! I was bringing in as much as my wife through my online ventures). If you think these women look down at “housewives” you should see what they think of stay at home dads. I was having a conversation with a group and one of the women mentioned that I was stay at home dad. Within minutes I was standing there alone as they all went off and had their own discussions and excluded me.

It’s simply ridiculous all the way around.

And I’m not saying stay at home is not work, but let’s keep things in perspective here… if you are simply refusing to give your guy a back rub because you’re a woman and woman don’t do that kind of thing anymore because you’re “liberated” then you deserve all the misery that is sure to come your way.

That person is busting their butt so you can sit home and watch TV and surf the web while the laundry is in an automatic washer and dryer. The dishes are in an automatic dish washer. You spent a whole half hour of real time preparing food to put in an automatic temperature controlled oven. And spent half an hour using the automatic vacuum cleaner every other day or so (less if you’re sloppy).

Sometimes I wonder about the ones who stay at home and complain like they’re living in the Victorian era taking 3-4 solid days to wash clothes by hand, scrub the floors by hand with caustic chemicals for a full day and taking 5 hours to cook one meal on a coal burning stove every night.

These same people complain that they’ll actually have to spend 5 minutes rubbing their significant others’ shoulders or bitch about taking 1 minute to run and get their clothes ready for them in the morning because they’re running a little late.

We’re a spoiled nation and it shows in the utter contempt many have for the spouse that provides for them. It’s no wonder the divorce rate is so high.

BSC: That’s the truth! I’m really amazed at some of the blogs that have rabid fans. I just don’t get the attraction. But like you said, there’s something for everyone!

I remember when Laura Schlessinger received so much flack for her book, “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.” I went out and purchased that book and agreed with every point she made. The reviews on amazon are quite interesting as well…

Take Care, Donna