First…this is not Beth. Tis me, Jo, solely responsible for my own opinions. If you’re offended, direct your anger at me, not Beth. Please and thank you. That said, here goes.
Whenever there is an abuse story involving a child, it seems everyone and their Granny has an opinion on it. Or an excuse for it. It gets emailed, bulletined and talked half to death. The questions are many, the blame shifts constantly ( is it the parents or Child protection Services ? ) and the answers are few, and often get lost in the melee of defending one or the other.
Last night, after reading through a lot of different posts , then visiting *My Space* blogs, I asked myself how did we come to this…blaming agencies for their failure to do x,y,z and absolving parent’s, returning abused children to them time and time again, and when the child ends up dead they receive most of the blame and the abusive parents role is minimized.
Yes, Child Protective Services in most states need an overhaul , as does our welfare system, our schools and our judicial system. My question is why ? Why do we even need a CPS ?
It seems to me if parents behaved the way God meant them to, there would be no need for CPS to be involved. Animals take better care of and do more nurturing than people do these days, so of course we need the proper agencies to intervene. BECAUSE the parents are not being “parental”.
Our young folks today are in dire need of guidance and education…because their own parents failed them. We, as law abiding citizens need to quit making excuses for them, see them for what they are and deal with it.
This whole unmarried parents epidemic annoys me no end. Who said it was a good, moral and responsible thing to do ? Actually, I can answer that. It was the womens’ movement that sent us on this path straight to hell.
What was ever wrong with being a wife and mother ? NOTHING. However, the feminists demeaned and bullied the average woman to the point that they lost the ability to think for themselves. Almost every female fell in step behind the Libbers. Ever notice how when one person does something wrong and we let it slide, it isn’t long before someone else thinks it’s ok ? And it grows and grows until it is perceived as normal.
Women used to be taught to have respect for themselves, for their bodies and reputation. Not so much the last couple of decades. Look how far we have fallen, how much we have lost…all in the name of “equal rights”.
We need to get back to basics. Seriously. We need to make commitment/marriage a preferred option for our youth. Morals should be a priority but those only come with self respect.
We absolutely have to stop this abuse cycle. I never thought I would live to see the day where I said ” I think we need to test potential parents “, but I do. Is their right to procreate greater than a child’s right to live, unharmed ? I think not.
We as a society, need to relearn how to say the word NO, and mean it. I think we should encourage our young folks to go back to school and make parenting classes mandatory. We need to volunteer our help, where and when it’s needed.
We need our kids today to understand their value, their worth. We need our young women to understand they do not need a male as an accessory. We need to teach them is there is no reason, or excuse, for abuse toward any living creature. We need to convince them that we do know truths that are NOT yet evident to them yet, i.e., if he hits you once, he will again. Teach them to think for themselves, not follow the lemmings. Maybe they need to know what happened to the lemmings.
If you doubt our youth are becoming lemmings, just check out My Space. The majority are young folks, very few married, many have children. They friend each other, get advice from strangers and donate to scams they want to believe in….because humans are inherently good. Just terribly misguided.
We need sanity, scruples and ethics restored in our culture. We need to get off our collective fannies and do something. We can start by putting the blame on the people at fault…the “parents”, mostly the “mom” who is ignorant, desperate and has no idea she doesn’t have to stay that way.
Jo/ Southern Sass
